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Maybe I Should Stop Doing This  

xdrearydancerx 35F
628 posts
7/30/2021 7:31 pm
Maybe I Should Stop Doing This


So I met a guy I liked again when I wasn't expecting it. Too bad I had sex with him right away and most likely we do not have any kind of future together. Well, he messaged me on Hinge and after only a few messages he asked meet me that night. I declined. Of course, I like to hook up but I like to talk to someone first and feel comfortable with them before doing that. Plus, I was sick of meeting guys and just wanted a night to myself. I didn't think he would continue pursuing but he messaged me the next day quoting Disney movies to seduce me. I guess it worked. lol And of course he asked to meet me again. So I talked to him on the phone and invited him over.

When I opened the door to him, he told me how beautiful I was. I don't take men's compliments seriously, but it still made me blush. I thought he was really cute too. We went to my room and had cheap red wine while watching The Simpsons. We were having a nice conversation but it wasn't long before we were all over each other. When I was laying on my stomach, he touched my butt, and lifted my dress. He was pleasantly surprised to see I wasn't wearing any<b> panties. </font></b>"Oh, you naughty girl!!" he said. Then we started to make out. It was not amazing sex but it was pretty nice. I am no sex critic either. Sex is like pizza to me. We had sex for a long time too and continued to have a good conversation. I felt I really connected with him. Who knows what he really thought of me. He probably found me to be a total weirdo.

He ended up spending the night. It was so nice to cuddle with him too. I love how warm he was and his body hair. I loved his touch. He was soo sweet and romantic too. He told me that he didn't have sex in a long time and he felt so lucky to be with me. He said he was fucking the hottest girl in Houston. LOL Ridiculous statement but nice to hear. Later he said that he was actually looking for a relationship but it’s okay that I wanted to hook up. I found this weird and asked him what gave him that impression. He said I seemed that way in my messages, that I was too flirty. Lol Whatever. I’m having a nice time with him. Oh well.

I made him breakfast in the morning before he headed off to work. He told me how beautiful I look in the morning. Very sweet but he is a liar. Over breakfast he said he wanted see again, that we could go do a museum, or go kayaking, etc. Of course, I smiled at him and said I would like it very much. But in my head I was thinking, yeah right, buddy. You’ll never text me again after this. He’s even more of a liar now. But he was so sweet the way he talked to me and continued to show affection after we had sex. I started to think Oh crap!! I like him!! I hate it when I like one night stands! When I decided to meet him, I was just thinking he is cute. There is nothing wrong if we have sex and don’t expect anything else from him. I should know by now that if I am attracted a guy and like his personality, I easily fall for him.

Well, it seems I am right that he was not really interested. It’s been two days and he didn’t text me. I don’t think he is a player and sees lots of women, I just feel like he just wasn’t into me. I took him to be the nerdy type, honestly. But I wonder why he made it seem that he wanted a real date. He already got what he wanted from me. Why lead me on? Maybe he didn't want to hurt my feelings. All he had to say was he had a nice time and thanks for making me breakfast. He doesn’t have to say he wants any future with me. Guys do this a lot to me and it drives me nuts!! Some people will tell me that I should text him first. He doesn’t have to text me first just because he is the man. I do not believe in this, personally. That’s cool if other women do this but I’m not comfortable with it. Although, I have caved in a few times and reached out to men when I should not have. I feel like if I have to be the one texting a guy first, it will go nowhere. They ignore you or they just reply to be polite, and they do not make any moves or effort. And that’s why they didn’t text you in the first place!!

I guess all I can say from this, is that true love is more work than that. It would have been too good to be true if things had worked out for us. Like come on, Mariam!! You’re not going to meet the love of your life by sleeping with a complete stranger from a dating app right away!! That is not real life! That is a movie!! It would be nice if it were like that but that will never happen for me.


coolhanded506 43M
8 posts
7/31/2021 5:51 pm

I wouldn't say that expecting true love from a stranger is out of line. But relationships and the spark of love starts some where. If it was just for a moment or just for a day. I made the mistake in the past with someone that ended poorly 4 years later. But youth was to blame for the mistakes of the heart and not seeing the signs that someone wasn't right for me. There is nothing stopping the next one you find to possibly be the one. But the best analogy I have for this: "You don't get far with a fancy sports car on only a 1/4th tank of gas. It fun to go fast and have fun. But if you or the other person doesn't put forth the effort to put any more in the tank after that then you are stuck by the road. " Finding someone you want to keep around and find true love with comes from finding someone that you can be friends with, have fun times, and slowly work to keep them coming back for more.


xdrearydancerx replies on 8/1/2021 7:32 pm:
No, it's not out of line. You never know how you will meet someone special. But I would be a moron thinking oh, this guy who I'm having sex with and don't know is going to be my boyfriend!! What kind of person has one night stands and thinks that's how they are going to find their partner? LOL

I also finally decided to text this guy. He responded but he was very slow and was not engaged in the conversation. Didn't ask me when I was available to see him again. He obviously wasn't interested. I knew it. That is how I predicted he would behave. And as I always believe, you shouldn't have to text a guy first. That's his job. If they are interested, they will act like it! To be honest, if I ever ended up dating a one night stand, I probably wouldn't be able to handle how good things had turned out for me. I would probably die of a heart attack!!

BigOlTeddyBear44 60M
367 posts
8/2/2021 12:03 am

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powercaps716 67M  
83116 posts
8/8/2021 2:11 pm

nothing is wrong with a one night stand, just don't make a habit of having too many of them. like i've said before, it takes time to find the right one and then you not should if he will be the right one.i have hope that mister right will come for you my friend.


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