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Money has no Place Here, but Clearly it Helps  

TopTwentyPercent 60M  
124 posts
9/18/2019 3:32 pm
Money has no Place Here, but Clearly it Helps
The other night, a male reader asked me how much money I had spent on a perspective date. I have to admit I bristled at his implication but not nearly as much as I do when a woman assumes I am going to start throwing currency in her direction just because she possesses female sexual anatomy.

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I would say I spent a very minimal investment on this date save for my time and a couple of beverages in this particular situation. This is a woman that clearly understands this adult lifestyle is a two way street.

I am not a gentlemen that can win hearts and minds with my wallet. I am of modest means, but believe me, if I had money, I would be one of the most generous men around because that is who I am. I like to see people happy. It is not because they ask for money or gifts; In fact, as soon as a woman asks for something early in a relationship, I am out.

I am sure almost all of the men with any experience on dating websites but especially adult sites where sex is high on a priority list, have experienced the hot little 20 or 30-something that tries to convince us that our heart has been stolen and now the creases of our wallet must be equally lubricated.

I get and sustain my dates the old fashioned way with brains, personality, and great health! At one point in my life, I was actually compensated for spending time with women, but that is a whole other story. I think once that is all sorted out, the highest quality women stick around and those that were expecting a "sugar daddy" move along leaving me a bruised ego but a healthy bank account!

It is all about attitude, approach and presentation! What is your AAP?
Paulxx001 67M
22642 posts
9/18/2019 4:39 pm

 Nah.. lol
Those are fairy tales, for the wistfully ignorant.
I play them with my mind.. and if they wanna play along... it'll be fun. She'll match me with the same game.
Otherwise... I never show them my investment statement.
Come on... Only the desparate... are desparate.
Players look for a 59 - 41 split... at worst... lol
Whatever... 😊
You know what I mean. 🤔


TopTwentyPercent replies on 9/19/2019 1:02 pm:
There is that "P" word I have been accused of through the years. Maybe I should just own it. In general, I will pick up a meal but don't think for a second if my date offers to pick up the cost of hers, I won't accept. If I didn't have such a lean budget, I would probably pick up most meals, but my dates usually realize that a man should be treated from time to time too!

1aptainadventure 36M
3 posts
9/18/2019 4:59 pm

 Could not agree more, nice article, thank you


TopTwentyPercent replies on 9/19/2019 1:02 pm:
Thank you for coming by and throwing in your two cents! I appreciate the company!

positively4you 74F  
4605 posts
9/18/2019 5:04 pm

 Heathen advice I see. Yeah, nothing will turn a woman’s head more than a cheap date.


TopTwentyPercent replies on 9/19/2019 1:03 pm:
I can hear all of the swooning as I type my dear!

Thank you so much for popping by!

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lonlyforlove2 81M  
32704 posts
9/18/2019 7:31 pm

 I guess the question is, what is cheap?
hen I go out in the evening the cost is not cheap, It does not matter if it is a movie and burgers, or an evening at one of the production steak house, OCharlie's is one of my favorites. still cost a reasonable amount. Movie , popcorn and soft drinks, then burgers afterwards will tear up 50-60 dollars… The price of prim rib and some nice drinks at OCharlie's will also. not sure that would be considered cheap, but even a bottle of wine, a box of chocolates, and staying in will cost also, so I guess what is cheap?? Or is the Question: Do we want to be cheap???
Stop by at lonlyforlove2
also see Lunch with Lonly , we get snow tomorrow
Check my blog on New Community, "A photo of my big Pecker"
also, " My Sunday afternoon with the kids'


TopTwentyPercent replies on 9/19/2019 1:10 pm:
Well, I also think that the kind of company we are looking for finds us. I recently met a lady on another website and painstakingly started to whoo her. I bought her dinners, a breakfast and a tour of Victoria B.C over several dates. It became apparent that one, this was not going to be the kind of relationship that I wanted (yes...with sex involved) and two, she was so spoiled she appreciated little of what I did/for her. What I have come to realize if a woman is really attracted to me, and I, her, she does not put a premium on money and realizes that we can't go out for dinner several times a week.

TicklePlease 56F  
13851 posts
9/19/2019 4:14 am

 Boy, if your wallet was as plump as your ego, you'd be living large!

But seriously, how do you handle it if a woman wants to go out on a date date? Do you say upfront that "it's a two way street in this here adult lifestyle, you've gotta pay your share?" or do you act like a regular dude and pony up for a fun evening outside the bedroom?


TopTwentyPercent replies on 9/19/2019 1:18 pm:
What you see is confidence and it is because of that confidence that I can live large of a pretty lean budget.

As for your second question, here a couple of responses to previous questions that should give you an indication of how I behave in this realm.

From a previous question...

"In general, I will pick up a meal but don't think for a second if my date offers to pick up the cost of hers, I won't accept. If I didn't have such a lean budget, I would probably pick up most meals, but my dates usually realize that a man should be treated from time to time too!"

"I recently met a lady on another website and painstakingly started to woo her. I bought her dinners, a breakfast and a tour of Victoria B.C over several dates. It became apparent that one, this was not going to be the kind of relationship that I wanted (yes...with sex involved) and two, she was so spoiled she appreciated little of what I did/for her. What I have come to realize if a woman is really attracted to me, and I, her, she does not put a premium on money and realizes that we can't go out for dinner several times a week."

This week, I am taking two of my best female friends to concerts. Any lady that spends much time with me will be taken out from time to time, because frankly, these other events are a form of foreplay! They are part of a larger basis for a relationship of any kind.

Thank you for throwing in your opinion and asking questions!

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