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I'm estranged from my family; it's a small family so there's not many to be estranged from. Once my parents died, my brother and I fell out - I later found out this is quite common for siblings to argue after their parents' death. I won't go into details about our arguments but they were causing me a lot of grief and anguish. I decided for the sake of my mental health to cut dealings with him. It meant i no longer saw his kids, whom i adored. That was one of the hardest decisions I've made. Me and my brother have not talked for about a decade now. 
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My family (what is left of it now!) is quite small - two sisters basically and an aunt, an uncle, and handful of cousins. I'm not particularly close to any of them. Not UNfriendly but not friendly either. I'm not sure why really - just drifted apart basically, most due to distance. You kind of sound like my older sister in some ways. As far as I know, she never was as unconventional as you, but she DID like to flout her different thinking, and I truly believe it was her way of lashing out. This Might Have Been the Height of Stupidity ANOTHER New Sex Toy and a Thought on quotCommunityquot X, Y, Z, on HNW [post 3312759] My Private Post - Tell Me ALL Your Secrets – Anything you write here is just between us
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We're a small bunch and we stick together through thick and thin. But shit hits the fan periodically then the dust settles and people forget or don't mention things. It's all good. Life is too short to worry about some fricken score card. 😎❗❗ ... is there another way to look at it Going Too Fucking Far NEW Blog Features RevealeD O O A Foolproof Method Posted Over on that NEW site O O
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I am the black sheep in my family as well. My family is very judgemental and they do not know about me being Bi. I am still not sure myself . I mean I was with a women in my early twenties and when she started kissing me and sucking my breast, I did get a very happy feeling. I did enjoy it. Then when I did another woman, I was with Master and it was not so much enjoyment. I did everything to her and yes she did play with me but no kissing and etc. Good for you for moving on in your life. Merry Christmas 🤶 🎄 The Light is shinning and she is lonely and waiting in the darkness. 
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My family is small and we do have our good and bad but we stick together when we need one another. The Light is shinning and she is lonely and waiting in the darkness.
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You rock your Black Sheep status! I'm pretty much the Black Sheep in my family. My mom was close to disowning me for something I did when in my early 20s, but she finally got over it. I was a bit sad that she was so unhappy with me, but I also wasn't going to live my life to suit her. My sister is not always happy with some of the things I do, but I won't change for her, either. We're closer now than we were for the majority of our lives. We need to all be the best version of ourselves that we can be and allow others to do the same. Pagan  Hmmmm....I know I left that wand around here somewhere!
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Unfortunately, like many families, things changed after both my parents died. Strain and estrangement had been building up over the years, and their passing brought much of it to the surface. I am the youngest of 3, and no longer have contact with the middle one and limited with the eldest. You can pick your friends but you can’t pick your family but can choose what to do about it. I have accepted ‘it is what it is’.
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I'm 1 of 6 siblings 'tho sadly now only 5, (younger brother passed from cancer ~3yrs ago) & we've all remained close & get on reasonably well even 'tho I'm the maverick of the group
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Both my parents were very open minded. One time my bible thumping Grandmother took everyone over to surprise her Mother, but the real surprise was all the half naked people that ran out her back door. Apparently, GG-Maw was a swinger and we interrupted her party. I was too young to remember but I guess caught that trait in an honest way.
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It's great that you seemed settled and content now. I'm very close to all four of My siblings and always have been. Our father died of a heart attack in his forties (1972) and mum had to bring five young kids up on her own. We grew even closer when mum passed away in 2017 aged 83, mainly due to the cruel aspects of Alzheimer's. 
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I was defintely close to my fam, there were just the 4 of us and being persons of color, we had to have each others back growing up in a small suburban town. They have all passed on now, including extended family and a few best buddies as well as my husband of 42 years. leaving me alone and feeling orphaned. Its just myself and my daughter now....and i try to remain strong....for her. Im glad u were able to break free from the toxicity. Your time is best spent playing in that dirt and watching things grow~
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I admire your spunk. I agree about FB, twitter and those awful types. Tried it, annoyed the crap out of me. Just a bunch of opinionated busy bodies. I am the only sister who is not on it. They just dont get it. We are close though. I never told all out of respect to my sweet mom. I do think things are getting somewhat easier for the different lifestyles. Do no harm is the best motto. I can say that this site has opened my eyes to differences that I was never exposed to. In a good way. Still good people, just not how I live.
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I'm close with my mom and I'm on good terms with my family but we're not as close as we used to be.
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What an interesting post. One particular line says it all: "Because I'm not the version of me they made up in their heads." How often is this a factor - not just with family but with everyone...... I am close-ish, but not really very close with my family, and I guess I actually am pretty much the version of me they made up in their heads! But there will always be things I couldn't and wouldn't share with them, which is a shame because I know they would, for the most part, like to be closer. But that's when the mildly judgemental tone of voice creeps into their voices isn't it. As if they somehow know better what would be right for me than I do! I suppose family feels that it reflects on them when their siblings etc behave in ways they find uncomfortable. It doesn't really of course, or shouldn't, but it is easier for them if we conform to what they expect. Selfish of them really - if as Erogedyne says respect can be given to everyone's own path, everyone is happier in the end.......
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I am estranged from most of my family and two of my daughters. Three of my sibs turned from Catholic to very conservative Christians and we don't talk much. Attempts mostly go awry. The two that I do talk to are not close by and stayed Catholic. I am Agnostic. Funny how that goes. l do have some adopted family I celebrate the season with. I celebrate it more for the memories than the event it proposes. I can understand why you quit hiding and told your family. It may have been hard on them and you but living a lie is hard and not healthy. Now you know the worst and can be who you are. Personally I feel that Family, is overrated. The important and often closest ones are those friends you adopt as family. I have a few of those but admit I am not sure if my second Ex-wife should be considered straight family or adopted family. She is still one of my best friends. May you enjoy those who accept you. Family is very rarely like Hallmark pretends and many try to make it. Big hugs to you. If you see me in the real world, come say "Hi Justskin." I always behave. Preferably not well. 
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i am also pansexual and in a sense poly. Sherman and i are in a committed relationship but it is non-sexual. i have dated others while living with him. or just had sex pals. i made the decision to come out on the pansexual to my niece, nephew and brother. the kids were super supportive. my brother who is very active in the catholic church was more supportive than i thought. we decided not to tell mom. i also have bipolar disorder I. not sure what you experience. my aunt just asked me if i was on disability... as you know, i work. i wasn't sure if you noticed what i had posted to the top of my blog? BTW... where in FL are you? I used to live in Pinellas.
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