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ASSUME NOTHING  

OberonFae 58T
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9/25/2019 10:12 pm
ASSUME NOTHING


"For some BDSM things are on their sex menu. For some of us, however, sex happens to be on the BDSM menu. The difference is significant."- Snowfalcon

a leather curious, queer, neurodivergent, on-my-way-to-being-hairy, glitter fae, masculine-identified gender anarchist with a hardcore spiritual orientation.

New to Burlington. Would love to find my queer, kinky, trans-inclusive tribe here... for RL friendship and whatever else might emerge.

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an ethically non-monogamous (ENM) Relational Anarchist.


Emphasis on the E of the ENM. If you're not bringing the ethical part to the table, we're not playing. ZERO freaking tolerance. Don't.

"Ask anything" = NOPE

If you cant pull your own weight of communications and emotional labor by volunteering information and communicating about yourself, don't expect take responsibility for pulling it of you. I play with mature, responsible, emotionally intelligent adults.

Fuck honesty. I want TRANSPARENCY.

The people I vibe with.. we talk about the hard stuff. Especially the stuff it scares the shit out of us to drag it into the light from the shadows where we hide it... and where it has power over us.

Then we dive into it... allow it to consume us so that we might consume it. The poison becomes the medicine... and we become more of our muchness and less of what limits us...brighter and more beautiful in our unabashed experience and expression of what makes us, individually, collaboratively, and collectively.. who we ARE.

THE FRIENDZONE IS MY FUCKZONE.

If we have a connection, going to want to explore the literal and figurative fuck of it, no boxes required.

Please be good with words, have some kind of spiritual orientation, the capacity to understand and appreciate ironic wit. Not "looking for" random hookups, NSA's etc... but sometimes shit happens.

* Not opposed to the idea and practical lived reality of commitment; Not specifically LOOKING for it. Sometimes the right people just come together at the right time and its fucking amazing.

I treasure my solitude. Any time we spend together has to be more rewarding than my time alone. More rewarding than my solitude:

* Physical touch and affection: The whole range- platonic, romantic, sexual, sensual, erotic, teasing, long and slow, rough and raw, primal ....
* Impact play.
* Outlets for oral fixations.
* not satisfied until you've redecorated the space behind your eyeballs and are floating in the place beyond words.
* Stamina that can match my libido, which, thanks to Testosterone HRT, is comparable to that of a teenage . I like redecorating the space behind my eyeballs and finding the place beyond words too.
* Being rode hard and put away wet.
* Balance and reciprocity of both expressing desire and initiating play.

Seriously, fucking is all well and good. It's fun, it's healthy, and done right, it feels good. Play is all well and good. It's healing and for least.. it gives space to BREATHE. But it's also not enough, long term or for sustainable satisfaction.

I want deep soul searing, "two become one, as the flower wedded to the sun" connection and integrative energetic and power exchange intimacy.

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evolving into a place where I dont see myself as hetero or homosexual, bi or pansexual.. but just. plain. SEXUAL. aching to explore the literal fuck of that.


I am masculine of center identified. predominantly sexually *oriented* to masculinity and outies and *attracted* to innies. The distinction matters.

*If you need a label for it, somewhere on the homoflexible part of the spectrum.*

If you are a cis-het straight dude, not the woman you're looking for.

From a D/s perspective, as well as relationally, sexually, and romantically, oriented AND attracted to men. I haven't yet experienced relational or romantic attraction to women. IF I meet a woman who DOES inspire that in me, damn, I'd love to explore that.

I have an innie and growing an outie. I bring all my bits to the party and they don't come in a box.

If you're calling my outie a clit and/or telling me you're into BBW, we're not playing in the same dimension. Feel free to follow and perv the fuck out of my pics and vids.

Bonus points if you refer to my outie as a a cock. Now we're getting somewhere...

If you ask what I want my bits called, well dayyyyum.... now you've got my attention. In more ways than one. And we might be on our way to some mutually rewarding bit twiddling...

I've been kinky since I lost my virginity in the early 80's, first poly relationship was in the mid 80's, official and "unofficial- because-we-didnt-have-names-for-it" power exchange for two decades. I've been a collared sub, top, and Dom.. and roles we never created names for.

I have the heart of a slave.

Inspired by the right partner, I could move into my slave space that I keep locked away but have never had the opportunity to explore. What lives there is so intensely yearning for a place where it can breathe, and be expressed.... that unless there is an outlet for it... its best not to wake it up. Sub frenzy sucks enough.

My submission and dominance are integrated. an effective -oriented pleasure top with a sadistic tendencies. Submission/surrender is both the core of my shamanic path, and the core of WHO I AM.

What that submission "looks like" can take lots of forms.

IF you get ^that^--if you get the spiritual aspects of wiitwd, if you get it's potential as a healing modality, if you get *energy play* -- we'll be having some cool conversations....and potentially a LOT more.

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What Into

* giving and receiving oral pleasure
* all cock, but I ADORE UNCUT COCK
* subspace
* fucking (giving to anyone, receiving from people with a penis)
* fisting (giving, vaginal receiving)
* bondage (receiving, giving)
* impact play (receiving and giving)
* edging & orgasm control/denial (giving, receiving)
* consensually pushing my limits
* aftercare (receiving)
* astral and energy play
* psi-feeding
* primal frequencies

not into protocol, but rituals, patterns, consistency, and predictability are VERY positive and stabilizing for .

Curious about exploring:

* both my maso and sadistic tendencies
* watersports (giving
* primal/otherkin frequencies/fantasy dildos/cock sheaths
* cnc (bottom)
* rimming (receiving/giving)
* anal training (receiving)
* threesomes
* gangbangs (receiving)
* consensual public groping/molestation, orgasms (receiving)
* cuckholding (giving)
* scarification, piercing (receiving)
* the local leather community
* tribbing, scissoring
* latex
* wax play
* needle play
* heterosexuality

DISCLOSURES:

I PLAY SSC, RACK & SAFER SEX PRACTICES.

an asymptomatic carrier of HSV2 and radically transparent stigma busting about it. IF THIS SCARES YOU, please do your research. 70-80% of the world's population carries the HSV virus and most are asymptomatic and undiagnosed.

NECK AND THROAT (INCLUDING FUCKING) ARE OFF LIMITS FOR PTSD TRIGGERS UNLESS SPECIFICALLY ASKED FOR.

HARD LIMITS: BREATH PLAY, SCAT, AGE PLAY, DEGRADATION/HUMILIATION, BREEDING.


3.27.2019

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