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Sometimes it just happens...  

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4/10/2022 4:27 pm
Sometimes it just happens...

You never believe it will happen to you. Okay, okay. Rephrasing ever so slightly may be in order. I never believed it would happen to me. The slow, imperceptible drift apart, in stages so gradual neither of you notice until that special whatever it was can’t be recaptured. Is it inevitable, this drift? Was it something we did...or didn’t do?

You reach out for each other, maybe even connecting briefly, but it’s not quite the same. Which doesn’t mean it’s bad. It isn’t. Maybe it’s even more durable. Cue that famous line from “Sex in the City,” “he (or she) is just not that into you.” And you both sense it and after whatever effort both of you are willing to put into it, you don’t give , so much, as acknowledge what is.

That’s what happened to us. Thirteen years in, she’s gone one way, I another. We’re there for each other, but...

Relationship therapists/coaches/thought leaders would inevitably tell us, if we asked, that we gave too soon or didn’t try hard enough. They’d be wrong, but their point of view, it’s not hard to understand. It’s not in their best interests to tell anyone that you’d be wasting your time/ trying to start a fire with yesterday’s ashes.

So...this week, my wife and I agreed to open our marriage. It’s not a maiden voyage, for me, though it has been a long time. I’ve been in previous open relationships, LTR and marriage, discovering in both cases that I must have missed the lines for<b> jealousy </font></b>and monogamy.

And we’re not going our separate ways, really. I will always be there for her, and I know that she will be there for me. It’s just that sexual/sensual component is absent. I will not love others as replacements her, but rather as the uniquely beautiful humans they are. I will care for them and share with them as the rare, priceless gifts they are, without apology and holding nothing back. For our time together, I will be theirs and they will be mine, in whatever way and for as long as we choose. I look forward to it. What about you?


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