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FIRST DATE in forever: Meeting in the time of COVID  

CarpeJamie 52M  
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12/20/2021 9:05 am
FIRST DATE in forever: Meeting in the time of COVID

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CarpeJamie 52M  
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12/20/2021 9:09 am

Tell me how do you prepare for a date now?

Do you go with an exit plan?

How long do you wait before following up with communication?

What is the waiting period before having sex when you think the person is hot?

How long to you keep dating without having sex?

So many questions. HELP!

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spunkycumfun 61M/67F  
41171 posts
12/20/2021 9:53 am

That's great news. The date obviously went well.
I haven't dated for ages!


countryqueen1 72F

12/20/2021 9:55 am

OMG, keep posting updates!! I'm going to live vicariously through you!!!


EnigmaInitiative 54F  
6054 posts
12/20/2021 9:57 am

Awww, it sounds like you had a good time. I'm so happy for you!

Tell me how do you prepare for a date now?

I'm not dating currently

Do you go with an exit plan?


I never have in the past. I'm more of a tell them the truth type of woman.

How long do you wait before following up with communication?

Usually right after the date.

What is the waiting period before having sex when you think the person is hot?

I've had sex on the first date, and I've also waited up to three dates. It just depends on the person

How long to you keep dating without having sex?

After my experiences, I wouldn't have sex on the first date again. However, if it were to go more than three, I believe I would wonder if there's enough sexual chemistry.

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jajo696 67F  
4287 posts
12/20/2021 11:46 am

you did perfect.....sometimes we gotta just go with the flow...go with what our gut feels. Whatever you do/feel....just communicate that and ask the same of her. Lack of communication is the root of bad things. Good Luck n have fun ~


author51 59F  
130010 posts
12/20/2021 11:59 am

I am glad your first foray back in to the dating world seemed to go well. My own waiting period and all depending on that first meet of attraction in all areas, body, mind and soul, depends on if there is and will be a second meet with clothes off or not.If I think that man is hot body and mind wise on the first meet and vise versa, the waiting period shortens.. All depending now on Omicorn and restrictions of course...


CarpeJamie 52M  
289 posts
12/20/2021 2:28 pm

    Quoting spunkycumfun:
    That's great news. The date obviously went well.
    I haven't dated for ages!
I have heard dating horror stories. None for me ... so far. But, you're only getting my side of things here (I'm sure the other side is flattering). Hopefully it will not be three more months before my next date. I've already put my request in with Santa. But of course because of my thoughts I'm on the naughty list. Lookin to see what the new year brings.

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CarpeJamie 52M  
289 posts
12/20/2021 2:32 pm

    Quoting countryqueen1:
    OMG, keep posting updates!! I'm going to live vicariously through you!!!
I'm glad to provide some enjoyment. I know I've been living vicariously through other bloggers thus far. Hopefully, I'll be able to deliver. Hope Santa allows you to move from living vicariously to experiencing the highs (and not so highs) yourself.

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CarpeJamie 52M  
289 posts
12/20/2021 2:53 pm

    Quoting jajo696:
    you did perfect.....sometimes we gotta just go with the flow...go with what our gut feels. Whatever you do/feel....just communicate that and ask the same of her. Lack of communication is the root of bad things. Good Luck n have fun ~
Thanks for the vote of confidence. You are absolutely right that communication is key. This is an area for personal growth, because my default is being polite and not rocking the boat. It is important for us to exercise our voice so others know where you stand. In the end if I meet interesting people and have fun it's a win whatever the outcome.

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CarpeJamie 52M  
289 posts
12/20/2021 2:59 pm

    Quoting EnigmaInitiative:
    Awww, it sounds like you had a good time. I'm so happy for you!

    Tell me how do you prepare for a date now?

    I'm not dating currently

    Do you go with an exit plan?


    I never have in the past. I'm more of a tell them the truth type of woman.

    How long do you wait before following up with communication?

    Usually right after the date.

    What is the waiting period before having sex when you think the person is hot?

    I've had sex on the first date, and I've also waited up to three dates. It just depends on the person

    How long to you keep dating without having sex?

    After my experiences, I wouldn't have sex on the first date again. However, if it were to go more than three, I believe I would wonder if there's enough sexual chemistry.
Thank you for sharing your ideas. Much appreciated having your voice added to the conversation! I don't organize an exit plan either -- I'm a go with the flow type of person.

Thanks for taking the time to comment! I love reading people's comments.

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CarpeJamie 52M  
289 posts
12/20/2021 3:05 pm

    Quoting author51:
    I am glad your first foray back in to the dating world seemed to go well. My own waiting period and all depending on that first meet of attraction in all areas, body, mind and soul, depends on if there is and will be a second meet with clothes off or not.If I think that man is hot body and mind wise on the first meet and vise versa, the waiting period shortens.. All depending now on Omicorn and restrictions of course...
Thank you. I'm not surprised that it would go well. I can hold my end of a conversation--although I'm much better when communicating through a computer since my thoughts don't race through my mind. Now there's an interesting thought ... a date where each of the participants are on a laptop across from one another at the dinner table ... LOL! Not far off from reality as I often see people at a restaurant table on their cell phones.

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