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Cats and Dogs
Posted:May 21, 2020 6:30 am
Last Updated:May 24, 2020 4:12 pm
Are you a or cat person?

I’ve always been a person. I have nothing against cats, I’ve just always had dogs from a very early age.

It’s not that I don’t like cats. In fact there have been some that I was quite fond of. But cats are a little more independent, a little more aloof and I’ve never learned how to train a cat.

I was about 6 years old when we got our first dog, mixed breed from the local shelter. He was half Dalmatian, half Bird Dog. The joke was he’d point out fire trucks but not birds.

Since then I’ve had many dogs, mixed breeds as well as pure bred. Currently I have two Scottish Terriers. Both went through puppy training as Scotties can be rather aloof and stubborn. While both maintain their “Scottietude”, they both are pretty well trained including crate trained.

My dogs ARE family. In fact, they’ve probably improved my life. One year they were that their annual physicals and I realized, the dogs get a physical yearly, yet I hadn’t seen a doctor in ages. So I made an appointment and have been seen once a year for my own routine check up. The doctor laughed when I told why I scheduled that first physical.

So are you a cat person or a person? When you meet someone does it matter?

Travel Tuesday - Oahu HI
Posted:May 19, 2020 5:35 am
Last Updated:May 20, 2020 4:04 am
My norm for the last several years has been travel the Hawaiian islands at least every other year, more frequent if I can afford the make the trip. I have visited five of the major islands and was looking forward a return next year Kauai, which I haven’t been for a number of years. Unfortunately CoVid has squashed those plans. I don’t want spend hours each way planes or in airports. I will wait until this has calmed down more before making such ambitious travel plans.

My first trip Hawaii was Oahu, staying at the famed Hilton Hawaiian Village. I choose Oahu because I felt this would be the only time in my lifetime I’d see Hawaii. I wanted to make certain I saw Pearl Harbor. Little did I know I’d fall in love with the islands and that I’d work my ass off to get back to them

Since that first trip I’ve learned the Oahu is the most commercialized of the islands with all the expensive shops and the fanciest restaurants. If you want cosmopolitan Hawaii, this is your island.

I prefer the more laid back feel of the other islands myself. I’ve stayed on Oahu twice and visited via island hopper a couple of more times when traveling with friends but staying on another island. It never fails someone will travel with me but hasn’t seen Pearl Harbor, which is almost a must do if you’ve come this far and may never return.

Generally island hopping is easy enough and doesn’t cost that much (may have changed since I last did this). Take the early AM flight over, rent a car, spend the afternoon at Pearl then grab a nice dinner somewhere and take a late flight back to the island you’re staying on. One time we booked a one night stay on an island hop, just so we could relax and enjoy the night life offered in Waikiki.

I don’t really plan on returning to Oahu for vacation. A nice island but VERY crowded. Other than the shopping and restaurants, it’s best feature is the less developed north shore where the big waves come in. There was a grocery store across from the beach and a beautiful little park. It was perfect for grabbing everything for a picnic lunch, relaxing by the ocean and catching some rays. The swimming on this side of the island is not good. A really strong current makes it very dangerous unless you are a strong swimmer and know what you’re doing. I left the water sports to the many surfers practicing their skills on this more remote area of Oahu.

At any r here are some of the photos from those trips.

Speed cooking
Posted:May 18, 2020 6:55 am
Last Updated:May 18, 2020 7:46 am
I work a lot of hours. Because of that and prior to the pandemic, I ate out a lot. Typically I’d get off work, hit the fast food drive thru, eat, watch the news, sleep and repeat. Breakfast was usually 2 cups of coffee and off to work I’d go.

I’ve searched for quick meals to fix and quick ways to prepare meals but nothing had really worked out. I had high hopes for my Instapot, but it never really worked out nor was it really that fast in the end.

There have been two changes recently which have been a big help to me.

The first, pre-cooked bacon. Who knew? 35 seconds in the microwave and voila, instant gratification. I bought a pack thinking it wouldn’t be any good, but I was wrong. It’s actually very tasty. I currently have a package of Kirkland brand from Costco that makes breakfast so much easier. In the time it takes my toast to pop, I have two eggs cooked medium and 3 slices of bacon ready to go. I’m now eating a regular breakfast on days I work and not feeling the pinch of missing my regular restaurant on days when I’m off.

Then there’s the air fryer. I’m not horribly proficient with it yet but, I have learned to cook fish in it and have it come out perfectly (for me at least). Again Costco has been a God send with fresh/frozen fish available. I can set it out to thaw in the fridge the night before. Season it to my liking, or buy pre-marinated/seasoned flies, pop it in the air fryer for 10 minutes and it good to go. Toss a steamer bag of fresh/frozen veggie in the microwave for 10 minutes and I have a relatively healthy meal, save for the mercury poisoning I may be getting from eating to much fish LOL.

The flip side of this is I’m now accustomed to fixing more of my meals at home. Healthier for me I’m sure, but if more people do as I’m doing, it won’t be good for those restaurants frequented by people on the go as I’ve been.

Now I need to learn to prepare and cook other things in the air fryer that are reasonably fast and healthy. I have a few friend that have been using them so I’ll eventually reach out to them and see what I can learn.

Beginning to wonder if this is worth the effort
Posted:May 17, 2020 4:21 pm
Last Updated:May 18, 2020 10:24 am
Either this is a very closed community or, I’m doing something wrong. After a couple of months I've managed to have three conversations with women despite reaching to numerous profiles. I finally upgraded to VIP, just to see if I was being totally ignored or if I was messaging accounts that were no longer checked on. It's been a little of both.

Of the three women chatted with, that's all that's been done. pretty much prefer a drama free life and one of the women I was chatting with started to become a little to dramatic. I ended that conversation when she didn't accept that I was at work and could not her when she wanted. Discretion is important to . I was getting the feeling she would be anything but discreet if I didn't meet her demands when she wanted them met.

Another has decided not to see new people right now, which is fine. Everyone can have stuff going on in their lives and now might not be a good time to start a new relationship. We still and I enjoy talking to her. Maybe sometime in the future we'll actually get to meet. It's not just lip when I say I value the friends portion of FWB, assuming that's what the other person wants.

The third has been on this site a long time and told me upfront that she's not easy. I respect that probably more than she knows. The pandemic has put a hold on getting to meet her as both our schedules are up in the air and we live some distance apart. hopeful we'll eventually meet and things will click between us. Chatting with her on this site I believe she has a similar personality to mine, which for me is refreshing as I work around fake people with their own agenda's on a daily basis. I need someone who is real and honest when they speak.

Past those three experiences is been radio silence. Just getting someone to respond to a message is nearly impossible. Hell, getting someone to actually READ their messages seems to take monumental effort.

Then there are all the flirts from around the world. What's up with that? I've re-written my profile more than a couple of times trying to explain not interested in anyone who lives greater than 200 miles away. Today I re-wrote it again, keeping it simple as to who I am and what seeking, leaving the geographic restrictions or potential scheduling conflicts. It doesn't seem to matter and no one appears to actually read a persons profile anyway.

I always spend time reading a woman's profile before messaging her. Those who state they're not looking for someone like me, I leave alone. Those who's profile I fit, I message if they look even the slightest bit interesting to me. Still, NADA. Complete and total radio silence.

It's got me to thinking what exactly is it that doing wrong? Maybe just wasting my time here. Maybe this site really isn't about hooking up for finding a FWB partner. Maybe this is more of a social club and the new in the room that's of touch and wearing the wrong clothes or driving the wrong car to be cool?

Whatever it is, beginning to believe this may be a near total waste of time. It seems that very few profiles here are either real people or, are who they say they are and looking for what they say in their profile. To say I've been underwhelmed is likely an understatement.

What's the deal?
Posted:May 16, 2020 2:09 pm
Last Updated:May 18, 2020 10:26 am

The site's banner says, "Hookup, Find Sex or Meet Someone Hot Now". So why is it I'm getting viewed, hot listed and flirted with from all these women looking for a serious relationship, soulmate or marriage? Why in the world would anyone sign up on a sex site looking for marriage or a soulmate? Have people become that desperate or that stupid? isn't there plenty of regular dating sites and dating phone apps fill that need? Why advertise yourself on a site primarily for adults meet adults for adult activities? That actually seems rather dangerous if you're a little naïve. If these accounts are real and not scammers, it seems it would be easy pickings lie and scam these women. Of course, that's assuming they're not trying scam naïve men that are desperate meet someone.

I'm also getting flirted with by a coupe of the same women over and over again. After more than a couple of flirts I've sent a few of them messages asking if they were for real, wanted meet or why they didn't just message me instead of flirting with me. Only one responded and she turned out be a cam model trying get into her room and tip her or for a private show. The others never respond messages but keep sending me flirts. Strange behavior if you ask me.

I make it pretty clear what I'm looking for on my profile. At least I think i do. I still get hot listed or flirted with from women all over the world looking for their soulmate, a serious relationship or marriage. Strange behavior indeed.
As States Wind Down Their Stay at Home Orders
Posted:May 15, 2020 12:25 pm
Last Updated:May 16, 2020 1:42 pm
What have you been doing during the stay at home orders?

Mostly, I've stayed at home. The house is considerably cleaner. The poor garbage man has had more of a workout from my house as I've done a literal ton of spring cleaning over the last several weeks. I've read studies, watched a lot of documentaries, a few movies and some TV that I don't ordinarily watch.

One good thing might be that I'm getting back to exercising regularly and cooking at home more often. In the past I've been a junk food junkie, always hitting the fast food places after work rather than prepare my own meals when I get home. I purchased an air fryer, and while I wouldn't say I'm proficient with it, I have learned how to cook fish really fast that comes out tasting good. I've been pairing that with a ready to stick in the microwave steamed vegetable bag. In minutes I typically have a relatively healthy meal, assuming I'm not getting mercury poisoning from the fish (it's ALWAYS something isn't it?)

The one thing I've found I like is walking in a local nature park near where I live. It's a nice walk. There's even the occasional deer, turkey and various other critters and birds. It's a pleasant walk that is mapped out on an app, so I can see how far I've walked and get an approximation of the calories burned, which in my case is about 200 calories per mile. This morning I was able walk 5.5 miles. I may go for a shorter walk later today, just because I can.

Here are a few pictures from my walks in the par So much nicer than hitting the elliptical or treadmill at home. The outside loop is 1.7 miles long, so I have do more than one lap make it count.

Posted:May 14, 2020 4:25 pm
Last Updated:May 14, 2020 4:27 pm

Types of women I’m finding on BBWMatchMate

looking for a soulmate, long term relationship and/or marriage


Women who summarily dismiss a message without reading it (based on their response to the message)

Women who message me and obviously haven’t read my profile. (Probably scammers)

Women who never read their messages (I paid for VIP so I get confirmation)

Women who read their message and just don’t respond (rude)

Women who post they’re looking for a specific type of person, then respond saying they’re looking for something totally different.

On a site that advertises to find your hookup, I didn’t realize it would be this difficult to find someone interested in a FWB relationship. Apparently I’m either one super ugly spud or I have a piece of kryptonite in my pocket.
An end in sight?
Posted:May 14, 2020 10:55 am
Last Updated:May 14, 2020 11:17 am
Finally there appears a ray of sunshine in a dreary world.

Ordinarily I take a week to travel every 12 weeks. Thanks to travel restrictions, the last trip was to S. Florida the first week of December. I had to cancel a planned trip to Las Vegas and was sincerely worried my next vacation would get shit canned as well.

But things are looking more positive. I’ll be traveling to Kansas City to visit some old friends for a quick weekend trip, followed the next week by a full vacation to one of my favorite relaxation spots, Breckenridge, CO. My mood was especially lightened when I received a message from the resort in Breck that they plan to open back up just in time for my arrival.

I’m especially hopeful because I’ve reserved a premium condo in Breckenridge. I know a lot of people view a room as a place to sleep or enjoy sexual encounters, but an upscale condo is as important to me as an 8” cock is to some women or DD breast for some men. I like being comfortable, having room to spread out and relax.

Now if I could just find that one special FWB sex partner, life would be grand. Unfortunately, So far it’s been a lot of oysters, but no pearls. Maybe soon I hope, maybe soon.

Self Image and the Desire to Remake Yourself
Posted:May 11, 2020 11:51 am
Last Updated:May 13, 2020 11:44 am

I am not who I think I am.
I am not who you think I am
I am, who I think, that you think, I am

We see ourselves a certain way. Most of the time we see ourselves as we believe others see us. It's a distorted image that affects how we feel about ourselves. I have come to be a strong believer that you must like yourself in order to be in a healthy relationship, whether it's as a married couple or who you might be seeing in an affair.

there is a multi million dollar industry, probably billion dollar industry, to make you feel better about yourself. Everything from gym memberships to plastic surgery to weight loss programs. When you look in the mirror, you really need to like who you are, both as a person and how you look physically. If you don't, everything else will always be out of place.

When I was younger I was ALWAYS insecure about my looks. Much of that insecurity came from the desire for everyone to love me, and not everyone did. It's hard to reconcile rejection as a and even as an adult. But everyone isn't going be in love with everyone else.

you need be self confident enough understand everyone has a right their own tastes in a partner. It just doesn't always work out. It takes time and patience find that right match. Sometimes you think you might have found that match only find the other person has different wants, needs and desires.

When that happens what do you do? How we handle rejection affects our lives. Some will binge eat. Some will get depressed and not want talk anyone. Some will make up lies push loved ones and friends away. Some will drin Others will begin a strong effort remold their outward appearance in a vain attempt make themselves appear as they believe others want them be.

This site can be soul sucking when you're looking for someone. It's not easy make that perfect match. It seems especially difficult stick your guns and not try mold yourself into what you believe others want to see in you.

In the end, as Shakespeare once wrote, To Thine Own Self Be True. Only by being true to yourself will you ever find that match you desire. Don't settle for less. Don't try to become someone you're not, just to fit someone else's idea of perfection. Be yourself without compromise and you'll find you're own happiness regardless of what others thin
What a Long Strange Trip it's Been - Grateful Dead
Posted:May 7, 2020 3:35 pm
Last Updated:May 24, 2020 7:17 pm
OK, maybe not so long as I've only been on this site a little over a month, but definitely somewhat strange.

I've been surprised that there are some ongoing battles between members. Seems strange but I suppose on a site that says, "Hookup, find sex or meet someone hot now" jealousy shouldn't surprise me. Seems odd be jealous or possessive a site that should be attracting swingers or people looking for side sex affairs. I'd have thought we'd be more "grown " about this by now.

The scam artists don't really surprise so much but the variety of how they try get in my wallet does a little bit. I'm pretty accustomed to the Catfish routine. Today I stumbled onto the Web Cam performer routine. Not really a scam but, I've done the web cam bit and learned first hand that you can drop a couple of hundred dollars real quick on a private session while they try to make you believe they're in love with you and you should keep coming back.

I've had a higher number of women in their 20's and 30's flirt with me. Most of the time I blow them off thinking they're just trying to run a scam. Today I was bored and IM'd one. She was within driving distance and I thought what the hell, let's see if she's for real. She was a real person, but she didn't want to meet, just wanted me in her professional cam model room where she could pick my pocket in the form of signing up for her fan club. I was encouraged to tip her as that would be "like buying me a drink" and I assume if I stuck around long enough there would be the request to go private.

I've done the cam model routine. Granted you get something for your money but, jerking off while watching a woman fake and orgasm for $100 (or more) isn't my idea of a good time and, it's not why I'm on this site.

Then there are the profiles that say one thing, but that's not really what they want. I don't get it? Why post that you're looking for one thing, then switch gears when someone messages you?

There are the profiles that have very little information on them. When messaging some of these I've been chastised for being a married man looking for an affair. I Find this humorous coming for someone looking for sex with strangers on the internet, but who am I to judge?

I've been pretty surprised at the number or women from thousands of miles away that have viewed my profile. Maybe they haven't refined their search parameters?

I especially like those who don't read my profile before we engage in a conversation. I've attempted to be very clear on my profile who I am, what I'm looking for and what availability I have, especially the part that I have better availability during the daytime and very limited ability in the evenings.

I'm still learning. I'm still looking. I'm still hopeful. I realize this takes time and I'm patient. I'd really like to find that one person in a similar situation as myself and develop that FWB situation I covet. Is she out there? I hope she is. Maybe I've already found her! I just won't know for certain until after this Covid thing is over and we can finally meet for the first time.
Dazed and Confused
Posted:May 1, 2020 9:12 pm
Last Updated:May 2, 2020 3:58 am
The Covid pandemic has really wrecked havoc my personal, work and social life. The stay at home order for my state is set expire May 3rd and I "thought" maybe we'd begin get back some semblance of normal.

Not so fast there Kemosabe. The groundhog has seen it's shadow and declared 6 more weeks of winter...… sort of. The stay-at-home order for the state will be allowed expire. YAY! Except that individual counties can extend the order for their citizens. BOO! Johnson county, for example, has extended the stay at home order until May th. Well this is just a little confusing. Now I have each county see where I can travel and meet people and where they're still locked down.

Some businesses will be allowed open, but restaurants, bars and hair/nail saloons will remain closed for another weeks. When they are allowed open, distancing guideline may make it difficult know what you can or can't do. For instance, can I meet someone for drinks get know them and sit at the bar or do we have wear masks and sit 6 feet apart?

And hair/nail saloons? We're going look like Shaggy from Scoobie Doo by the time this is over.

Don't get wrong. I work in the medical field. I know how important it is get this right. But in true government fashion they appear have tried please everyone and instead pleased no one.

well, I'll just keep chatting online and blogging until we get back some semblance of normal.
Travel Tuesday
Posted:Apr 28, 2020 8:54 am
Last Updated:May 24, 2020 7:17 pm
So I’m bored as hell since I can’t travel, can’t meet anyone and can’t even go out for coffee. I spend a disproportionate amount of time watching, listening or reading industry studies until I’m brian dead. Since I can’t travel, I spend time Looking at old travel photo’s. Since I have nothing better to do, I thought I’d post to the blog.

This was a day trip to the ghost town of St. Elmo. It was a mining boom town in the late 1800’s and finally died around 1920’s when the railroad discontinued service. It sits at an elevation just under 10,000 ft and is one of the very few ghost towns you can easily drive too. There is a general store open I. The summer and a few residents remain in the area.

Below St Elmo there is a resort, Mount Princeton Resort, that has natural hot springs, so if you want to make a day of it, you might consider checking into their offerings.

Exquisitely Bored
Posted:Apr 27, 2020 5:13 pm
Last Updated:Apr 27, 2020 7:08 pm
I don’t think I ever realized just how social I was until the stay at home order with the pandemic put the brakes on everything. Not that I was out hitting the clubs or bars, but just being able to go grab a sandwich, a drink or sit and enjoy a cup of coffee while people watching at a coffee shop someplace would be nice.

I enjoy online chatting and getting to know people. However, it’s difficult to make new connections on this site and maintain them until a person can meet in the flesh. I had half expected maybe 4 weeks of stay at home and then be back to some semblance of normal. I’m not sure that will happen.

It will be interesting to see how different states begin to re-open and how states with border towns coordinate, or even if they coordinate. Even inside some states, different counties have varying restrictions.

I live in southern Kansas. Oklahoma has already announced that they may begin allowing restaurants to open for dine in customers with some social distancing guidelines. So far Kansas hasn’t said anything I’ve heard or read. Kansas City crosses the Missouri/Kansas border. Jackson county MO has apparently announced the social distancing will extend to May 15th. At this moment Kansas will end it’s social distancing on May 3rd. If those dates stick, businesses on the MO side of the border are likely to be pissed as customers drive the short distance to Kansas for open stores.

And of course there’s the crimp this has out on everyone’s social life. I joined this site just about the time the shit hit the fan. Shall we say that’s been a very disappointing turn of events.

I look forward to getting some freedom back and being able to move about and maybe even meet some people when ever that time may be. Until then do as I’m doing, stay home and stay safe.

The pic is me at about 18. That’s actually a on my lap.

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