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2020 vs 2021 A Comparative  

bustinout20202 65F  
868 posts
1/28/2022 11:07 am
2020 vs 2021 A Comparative



Before the first month of 2022 is over, I thought I would share this reflection on my journey thus far.

Gilf and I talked for over an hour on the phone the other night. We ve decided that EVERY time we contact each other we need to turn the recorder on because every encounter has us cracking up at one point or another! It’s all fodder for the podcast! See Episode 8-The Ongoing Adventures of Milf & Gilf -- Women of a Certain Age.


I lost some of my episodes when my phone was stolen last summer. I did a remote erase of all my data and as a result lost the recording app that we used.
Do you have any idea how many recording apps are called Voice Recorder? So, try as I might, I could not find the originals in the cloud. Luckily though, I had emailed the bulk of them to Gilf so I just had to check archived emails to find some of them.
Last night was more discussion of what was next in our lives: a bit of a retrospective of the last two years, and what we would like to see manifest in 2022.
Here is the recap:

2020

For me, no matter how traumatic 2020 was, it was actually a good year!

And the worst year!

Yep, Dickens words got me again because it truly was my personal best of times and worst of times. Everything was closed down, and fear was rampant, but I was more active, because all we could do was go for walks outside! Granted, Gilf and I would do so with drinks in hand; and we would make it as far as the bistro before we would sit and chat, but there were other walks to be had as well. The walks helped to clear my head and I enjoyed being near the water, whether at a lake, river or along Puget Sound. The seasons were much more mild that year than the next, with a warm spring, lingering summer and a beautiful Fall.

Just before everything was ordered closed in our world, my world turned topsy-turvy--finding out about my hubs infidelities and choosing to change my paradigm re. marriage and monogamy. As a result, I made the decision to join here.

What fun it was!!

Everything and everyone I met on the site was new and full of possibilities! My imagination reveled in the stories and possible meets that would happen someday with these folks! Admittedly I was a neophyte to this lifestyle and most times a bit reluctant to jump in with both feet. But there were a few seasoned folks who helped along the way, offering their words of wisdom that lit the way for me. I have moved slowly and cautiously down this road; this roller coaster track. In 2020, I met only a couple of men for actual playtime—chatted with many! At the same time, the hubs and I began to talk more earnestly in our relationship and to reconnect.

It amuses me to no end that an adult site like this actually has worked to save my marriage rather than implode it! We spent more time together doing things: building things, kayaking, talking. The imposed incarceration was good for us.

I started this blog on here--to share my story; my side of infidelity. My choices. Not only was it a form of therapy and healing for me, it also gave me an avenue to pursue my writing and storytelling, something that is deeply a part of who I am.

Gilf and I continued to share dreams and stories with each other. Creativity abounded as we conceived of the idea of a podcast for Women of a Certain Age [men invited too! ] It was going to be our happy hour that invited whoever wanted to join in and interact with our stories and lessons learned; and are still learning!

2021

Then 2021 came with a collective sigh of relief as a new year and a vaccine was just over the horizon. Many thought it would let us all return to normal but in my world and the world at large, normalwas really a new normal. Things began to open up in my world.

Then close.
Then open up again.

I became less cautious about the virus as we got vaxxed and the numbers started going down in our area. Then, it came knocking on our door, first the hubs, then me, then our . Luckily, it was like a mild 24-hour kind of cold for me. No temp, just tired and sneezy. The only symptom was my loss of taste and smell. The only distinguishing taste I had was the olives in a dirty martini! But I lost a friend over it- not from it, but because of it. I was told if I gave her covid, she would never talk to me again. I unwittingly did, and she hasnt talked to me since.

I met more people from the site this past year. Was ghosted more than once and began to see past the newness of the lifestyle and to live the reality of it. I gave up hope on meeting most of the ones who shaped my views in the beginning of this journey, [albeit save one -- you know who you are! ] and embraced the ones who were near. [cue Crosby Stills Nash and Young’s Love the One You re With]

The reality of the lifestyle is that it takes a lot of work to do! The time, effort, and coordination with others and making it fit in with my regular life can be a bit tiresome at times. Spontaneity is out the window nowadays. I started a part-time job in addition to working my online store causing my time to meet and get together with others to be limited. Work outside the home is hard for me anyway: I kinda hate other people planning my days for me or having to be somewhere away from where I would rather be. I am the classic case of when I am at work, I dream of being somewhere else and when I am somewhere else my mind is on work.

Anyone else have that problem?

I did manage to meet more, play more and as a result define what I am wanting to experience. It varies day to day, experience to experience tho. Some days I want to retreat into myself and forget about this place; and on others, I want to embrace this sphere and all it offers because life is short-shorter for me than others!

I dont want to be the kind that has so many notches on a bedpost that it looks like a beaver carved on it [hmmm, interesting analogy I just came up with there! Lol!]. I want the experience of memories being created in and out of the bedroom.

I did have some firsts this past year: first time writing erotic fiction, first meet in a hotel, first time sex in an office, first public sex experience. No I havent shared those yet. Ive had some embarrassing moments too and NO, I will not be sharing those!

As Gilf noted about both our experiences, 2020 was about the newness and fun all around us. 2021 was more serious, more about getting to the heart of the matter.

So what will 2022 bring?

Since I am kind of an old salt on this site, well no longer the newbie that I was, I might be tad pickier in my choices. I know Ive said I may not be everyones cup of tea; but I realize that others Ive met or that have reached out to me have not been my cup of Earl Grey either!


I know I prefer reading<b> blogs </font></b>waaaayyy more than I use IM and never the cams. I did that once -- truly an eye opening experience that I can’t unsee! [Makes me wonder what constitutes sexy to some people or what is simply shock value.]

I feel a sense of freedom and inspiration in 2022, a more defined sense of it anyway. I have more of a can do attitude this year. More of a why not? feel to my personality. Like why not travel and meet some of the folks Ive met online? Or why not write a memoir? Why not go on a sailboat with some who have asked? Why not join that cool swing group Ive heard of on here? Having a friend on a parallel path with me certainly helps.

So far 2022 has started out in a bit of a meh fashion, but my hope is that it will bring some dreams to fruition as I take the steps to make that happen. I dont do resolutions. I tend to look at what I want to make happen – to visualize and manifest dreams to reality.

What about you? Do you have any New Years resolves going into 2022? Have you any firsts to share from 2021?



~~~" Someone I loved once gave me a box full of darkness. It took me years to understand that this too, was a gift." --Mary Oliver~~~


bustinout20202 65F  
1080 posts
1/28/2022 11:23 am

I am now late to work as I had to go thru and take out any proper punctuation and ellipsis that i would use! Andrew, if you read this...puhleeze fix the punctuation glitches so we don't have to!!!!!! *&%@!#

~~~" Someone I loved once gave me a box full of darkness. It took me years to understand that this too, was a gift." --Mary Oliver~~~


CleavageFan4U 65M  
69374 posts
1/28/2022 12:31 pm

Dating-wise retirement has been VASTLY more of an impediment than I ever imagined. I still haven't given up, but tend to be sticking with one known local.

I've not had sex with someone new in over two years! But I gotta say that now a Bustin/CF4U/GILF sandwich sound mighty tempting.

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CleavageFan4U 65M  
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1/28/2022 12:34 pm

    Quoting bustinout20202:
    I am now late to work as I had to go thru and take out any proper punctuation and ellipsis that i would use! Andrew, if you read this...puhleeze fix the punctuation glitches so we don't have to!!!!!! *&%@!#
I'm not sure what you corrected, but this post is chock full of the "†" disease. (We're all used to it, and know it is not a reflection on the blogger.)

Like it or not, the "fix" is the new Community site.

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bustinout20202 replies on 1/28/2022 6:04 pm:
I just got home only to find those blasted AAAs all over the place!! I will never understand how he can write code for everything else but not fix the obvious thing that we'd all like fixed!!

bustinout20202 replies on 1/28/2022 6:15 pm:
I'm reading through this now, Geezus! Those lil suckers have multipliedd!!! How the hell did i do that??!

citizen4722 64M  
74582 posts
1/28/2022 12:38 pm

I'd say you've certainly gotten more out of this site than most.
I'm hoping this year will be a lot less painful as I spent nearly all of 2021 in compression stockings because of circulation problems in my lower legs. Maybe I'll actually see a rheumatologist face to face?!


bustinout20202 replies on 1/28/2022 6:08 pm:
Oh dear Citizen! I hope things improve for you!

LadiesR2B1rst 59M  
2735 posts
1/28/2022 12:49 pm

It has been different year for all of us. As they say "Live and Learn". Nice to know you have made the best of all that has happened in the past year. Thanks for sharing.


bustinout20202 replies on 1/28/2022 6:07 pm:
I know, right? It's hard not to be angry, frustrated and depressed over the last few years. Sure hope this one is better!

spunkycumfun 61M/67F  
41171 posts
1/28/2022 1:37 pm

That's a great reflectiion of the last few years. Covid has loomed large - we are the covid generation or at least one of the generations!


bustinout20202 replies on 1/28/2022 6:05 pm:
Yeah, I think I liked it better when we were considered the Flowr Power generation!

bustinout20202 65F  
1080 posts
1/28/2022 6:10 pm

Yeah but the new site is chock full of those varmints over there too!

~~~" Someone I loved once gave me a box full of darkness. It took me years to understand that this too, was a gift." --Mary Oliver~~~


crosstraining 69T  
8367 posts
1/28/2022 6:44 pm

Hopefully in 2022 you will continue to have new experiences , would luv to meet Milf & Gilf sometime in 2022 , XOXO


69ereatwetpussy 59M  
6784 posts
1/28/2022 7:03 pm

well we met on here and i'm glad.
along with many other lovely ladies on here.
a few even in person
hope to met many more (you if and when im out our way)
dealing with health issue hope will be taken care of without troubles
still hoping to have fun this year in thing i like
fishing , hunting , my dogs, friends and family
covid is real but we need to live and not fear.
as for your friend that blamed you for transmitting covid to her
its her loss and i hope someday she admits she was wrong
if not friends like her you dont need
hope your weekend is as beautiful as you xoxoxoxox


author51 59F  
130010 posts
1/28/2022 11:23 pm

This Woman of a certain age is interested in checking out your podcast. Covid for the last two years has changed things up for so many of us and seems it has touched your life also. Stay healthy and safe through it all and hope 2022 will take you where you want it to...xoxo


HughJardon62 60M

1/29/2022 4:18 am

Nice positive retrospective and view toward the future. I think that 2022 is going to be a much better year than 2021!

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But we can chat on my blog, "We Can Talk Here"


CleavageFan4U 65M  
69374 posts
1/29/2022 6:15 am

bustinout20202 replies on 1/28/2022 8:04 pm:
I just got home only to find those blasted AAAs all over the place!! I will never understand how he can write code for everything else but not fix the obvious thing that we'd all like fixed!!

bustinout20202 replies on 1/28/2022 8:15 pm:
I'm reading through this now, Geezus! Those lil suckers have multipliedd!!! How the hell did i do that??!

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Every time you go in and edit something else (something other than the  thing), the  thing doubles. So if I was inclined, I could figure out how many times you did that (1  becomes two, two becomes four, etc., it rolls up FAST.

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CleavageFan4U 65M  
69374 posts
1/29/2022 6:16 am

    Quoting bustinout20202:
    Yeah but the new site is chock full of those varmints over there too!
Can we get back to talking about that Bustin/CF4U/GILF sandwich?

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bustinout20202 65F  
1080 posts
1/29/2022 8:20 am

    Quoting author51:
    This Woman of a certain age is interested in checking out your podcast. Covid for the last two years has changed things up for so many of us and seems it has touched your life also. Stay healthy and safe through it all and hope 2022 will take you where you want it to...xoxo
Thanks Joy! The podcast isn't up yet, but I'll be sure to let you know when it is!! I'm hoping 2022 is a good year for you too! We all need some good in 2022!!

~~~" Someone I loved once gave me a box full of darkness. It took me years to understand that this too, was a gift." --Mary Oliver~~~


NoTell101 60M
53 posts
1/29/2022 7:28 pm

You’re a very interesting person. I really like your outlook on life. I like the way you think. It would be lots of fun to see how hard I could make you cum. That would be a challenge I’d accept wholeheartedly.


bustinout20202 replies on 2/9/2022 8:31 am:
It could definitely be a challenge! And so fun trying!

Ultraviolet_Sol 42M  
622 posts
2/8/2022 1:38 pm

Enjoyed the inspirational transparency, introspection and
personal insight, Busti.



It makes me happy to hear about your adventures.

It makes me think
how sometimes the most adventurous aspect of life can be...

Just our perspective of it.

You have a very open minded/open hearted approach
that radiates in vibrancy.

Tis cool.

Hope to hear more about your future endeavors.

*. *. *


bustinout20202 replies on 2/9/2022 8:33 am:
Oh my friend, I love your words, your perspective, your thoughts! Thanks ever so for commenting! Means a lot to me! {=}

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