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Not His One Night Stand  

sexyldy1000 65F  
10295 posts
3/26/2021 7:42 pm
Not His One Night Stand


She looked around the dimly lit bar. The music was dying down and most of the tables had cleared. She knew it was time to get going.

Almost reluctantly, she slowly stood up and after a moment, he followed her. She felt his gentle touch as he placed his hand on the small of her back and guided her towards the door.

Outside, the night was cool and the stars twinkled as they lit her path.

She could smell his subtle, expensive cologne. He was strong, intelligent and confident. Previously, she hadn't tried finding someone who challenged her in the ways he did. She’d always just gone with the unquestioning, less challenging ones, those who didn't dare ask too many questions.

She looked up at him and his questioning, blue eyes which seemed t.o see too much. She took an instinctive step back, confused and suddenly spooked. His head had already dropped forward and his lips brushed against her cheek.

“I don’t know what I am doing here. I have policies about these things,” he said as his lips fell t.o the hollow of her neck. She knew better, but she didn’t want it t.o stop. The kiss was light and teased her.

He raised his head. “I am not into one-night stands. I’m too old for that sort of crap. I have all the things I’m proud of in my life. I don’t believe in one-night escapism anymore. I don’t see the point.”

She tried t.o open her mouth t.o argue but he cut her off by brushing his lips over hers. She was startled and surprised. He stopped and lingered for a moment. He held her lightly, giving her plenty of room; it made her both grateful and disappointed.

She had just started t.o lean forward when he broke off the kiss.

“I’m interested in you,” he murmured against her ear. “You are not what I expected. You are smart. You are complicated. And I already know you won’t go home with me tonight.”

“You are right. I won’t,” she whispered.

His hands fell from her back as he stepped away. Her arms grew cold as she shivered and watched him walk over t.o his car. She didn’t call him back. She had her own vehicle so she could drive herself home. It was another of her self-imposed rules, designed to keep herself safe.

She watched as he drove away. And, after another moment, she went home. Alone.

Sometimes not doing something is the best choice.




sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
3/26/2021 7:46 pm

Trusting your instincts and making the choice that is right for yourself can be difficult.
Do you usually trust your your instincts?


resant78 43M  
3326 posts
3/26/2021 10:51 pm

I've certainly gotten better in making wiser decision. But that only came after many, many wrong, ill-advices choices.

I'm in a good point in my life that I can trust my instincts


agelesssexylegs 79F
1145 posts
3/26/2021 11:03 pm

I have trusted my instincts more and more as i got older,like you not looking for a one night stand,in past have felt cheap and a feeling of being used,has taken a lot of will power to stop and drive home alone


Paulxx001 65M  
22616 posts
3/27/2021 2:14 am

My instincts for some things (trivial and the not so trivial) are pretty good; time measures my accuracy.

Although, I had an instinct about that woman I met here, but it turns out that I was wrong. It took three years, but when that lady told me to fuck off and get lost, I realized my instincts can't always be trusted.


BiSussi 61F
1405 posts
3/27/2021 5:03 am

    Quoting sexyldy1000:
    Trusting your instincts and making the choice that is right for yourself can be difficult.
    Do you usually trust your your instincts?
I do, I do and did well with it over the years One night stands is not what I do anyway
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All I wish for are men I can fall in love with and who like Making Babies and not just want Sex

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peladodel56 65M  
10340 posts
3/27/2021 5:41 am

Más vale arrepentirse por lo hecho que por lo dejado de hacer... pero las vivencias son particulares y cada uno sabrá al final si el "instinto" fue un buen consejero o no... Buen fin de semana


justskin1 70M  
13175 posts
3/27/2021 6:15 am

So Right! Sometimes going home alone is the best choice even if, or especially if, your body disagrees. Not easy to do though.
Very sexy post even if they drove off alone. Some encounters are like that.

If you see me in the real world, come say "Hi Justskin."

I always behave. Preferably not well.


Tmptrzz 59F  
107038 posts
3/27/2021 10:28 am

What a great read this morning, I totally agree with what you have shared here, and it's refreshing to see that I am not alone in not wanting to be anyone's one night stand as well.

I hope you enjoy a fun filled Saturday..

Seduce the mind and see what a wonderful adventure the body will take you on..


jajo696 67F  
4287 posts
3/27/2021 11:47 pm

Im not that woman who would go for this either. Much prefer to go home and pull out the batteries with my dignity intact ~

Good read...thank you !


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
3/28/2021 11:26 am

    Quoting resant78:
    I've certainly gotten better in making wiser decision. But that only came after many, many wrong, ill-advices choices.

    I'm in a good point in my life that I can trust my instincts
Learning from past mistakes makes us stronger moving forward. Introspection often provides the benefit of hindsight.


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
3/28/2021 11:27 am

    Quoting agelesssexylegs:
    I have trusted my instincts more and more as i got older,like you not looking for a one night stand,in past have felt cheap and a feeling of being used,has taken a lot of will power to stop and drive home alone
Experience and maturity give us a different perspective. At the end of the day, we have to be able to look at ourselves in the mirror and know we are the best we can be.


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
3/28/2021 11:32 am

    Quoting Paulxx001:
    My instincts for some things (trivial and the not so trivial) are pretty good; time measures my accuracy.

    Although, I had an instinct about that woman I met here, but it turns out that I was wrong. It took three years, but when that lady told me to fuck off and get lost, I realized my instincts can't always be trusted.
You have mentioned 'that woman' a few times in your comments. Perhaps more introspection is required to understand what part you played in it. Maybe you have not interpreted her words and are looking for a reason to wipe the slate clean.


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
3/28/2021 11:34 am

    Quoting BiSussi:
    I do, I do and did well with it over the years One night stands is not what I do anyway
    ____________________________________________-_____________ __________ ________
    All I wish for are men I can fall in love with and who like Making Babies and not just want Sex
Having a good handle on your instincts and knowing clearly what you want will hold you in good stead.


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
3/28/2021 11:36 am

    Quoting peladodel56:
    Más vale arrepentirse por lo hecho que por lo dejado de hacer... pero las vivencias son particulares y cada uno sabrá al final si el "instinto" fue un buen consejero o no... Buen fin de semana
Yes, each person has to be comfortable living with whatever decisions they have made. Learning from mistakes also makes a difference. Enjoy your weekend. Keep safe!


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
3/28/2021 11:41 am

    Quoting justskin1:
    So Right! Sometimes going home alone is the best choice even if, or especially if, your body disagrees. Not easy to do though.
    Very sexy post even if they drove off alone. Some encounters are like that.
Making the 'right' decision is often not easy especially if your body tries to over-rule what your brain is telling you what to do. Thanks for stopping by


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
3/28/2021 11:43 am

    Quoting Tmptrzz:
    What a great read this morning, I totally agree with what you have shared here, and it's refreshing to see that I am not alone in not wanting to be anyone's one night stand as well.

    I hope you enjoy a fun filled Saturday..
Based on the comments, it seems that 'being a one-night stand' is not the choice of many.


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
3/28/2021 11:45 am

    Quoting jajo696:
    Im not that woman who would go for this either. Much prefer to go home and pull out the batteries with my dignity intact ~

    Good read...thank you !
It certainly is about dignity for many of us. And more than once, I have explained that if all I wanted to do was 'get off', I can do so quite well with my 'little pink friend'


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
3/28/2021 11:56 am

    Quoting  :

Personally, I do not hold the opinion men will fuck anything that moves. It's certainly not been my experience with men I have chatted with nor met in person. For me, I have to genuinely be attracted to someone on different levels in order to want to have sex with them. As I said in a prior comment here, if all I wanted to do was 'get off', there are other ways I can scratch that need


Paulxx001 65M  
22616 posts
3/28/2021 2:57 pm

She told me to fuck off and labeled me a — 'sad and bitter old man'.

I'm not flustered with that tag. She has a right to her opinion.

I prefer to manage my 'id' and its blooms and 'fails', without her sanctions. It would have been pleasant (expected after all that time), to have SOME support — empathy from an understanding friend?

She didn't understand me, or my sense of humour or pov on life. It's what it was.


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
3/28/2021 3:34 pm

    Quoting Paulxx001:
    She told me to fuck off and labeled me a — 'sad and bitter old man'.

    I'm not flustered with that tag. She has a right to her opinion.

    I prefer to manage my 'id' and its blooms and 'fails', without her sanctions. It would have been pleasant (expected after all that time), to have SOME support — empathy from an understanding friend?

    She didn't understand me, or my sense of humour or pov on life. It's what it was.
Empathy and support go both ways. Responsibility for the success of a ‘friendship’ should also be shared. Seems you are placing all the fault on her and that could be part of the problem.


Paulxx001 65M  
22616 posts
3/28/2021 3:53 pm

When someone labels you — a bitter, angry and sad old man — there ain't much space for any wiggle room, is there?

I didn't have much to say after that. Kinda killed everything in me. She might have been angry but her words hurt. She should have thought about what she was saying. The thing is, she prided herself on measuring her words, so when she shared them – I KNEW she MEANT them.

What was I supposed to do? Ya can't defend an opinion as strong as that one. I gave up.


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
3/28/2021 5:25 pm

    Quoting Paulxx001:
    When someone labels you — a bitter, angry and sad old man — there ain't much space for any wiggle room, is there?

    I didn't have much to say after that. Kinda killed everything in me. She might have been angry but her words hurt. She should have thought about what she was saying. The thing is, she prided herself on measuring her words, so when she shared them – I KNEW she MEANT them.

    What was I supposed to do? Ya can't defend an opinion as strong as that one. I gave up.
Seems you still aren't accepting any responsibility for what part you played in why things went awry. As you said, she was known for 'measuring her words', which means they were not spoken from a place of anger. So, there were reasons why she felt the way she did. Finger-pointing isn't productive unless it's pointing at yourself first.


Paulxx001 65M  
22616 posts
3/28/2021 6:20 pm

You're right. I point all of the fingers at myself for everything, including all she said to me. It was 100% my doing and my fault. I caused it, and I should have expected that outcome.
Not much I can do about anything now. I accept the outcome and realize that I have to move forward and stop bitching about things.
Thanks for the advice. I see your point of view. I am flawed and fucked up, and I shouldn't expect people to put up with me.
Point taken. I appreciate your advice. Hopefully, it's a learning experience for me. ❗❗😎


MrRareity 62M  
4589 posts
3/29/2021 10:30 am

Sorry for not being around you most likely what it's related to. Sometimes when you strongly agree with something so very much the best thing to say is nothing just let the words speak for them selves. Very well written!!

We have two lives, and the second begins when we realise we have only one - Confucious


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
3/29/2021 6:31 pm

    Quoting MrRareity:
    Sorry for not being around you most likely what it's related to. Sometimes when you strongly agree with something so very much the best thing to say is nothing just let the words speak for them selves. Very well written!!
No need to apologize. Life outside of these walls always takes priority.. And as you said, sometimes, no additional words are required. Thanks for taking the time to stop by.


trixietrixster 54F  
3125 posts
4/7/2021 5:28 pm

Always go with my first instinct and I've never been wrong ... the weird feeling in my tummy never fails. Happy Wednesday ...

In Luv, Lite, Laffter ...


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
4/12/2021 11:52 am

    Quoting trixietrixster:
    Always go with my first instinct and I've never been wrong ... the weird feeling in my tummy never fails. Happy Wednesday ...
Great to know that your 'gut instinct' has never been wrong. People sometimes ignore that 'weird' feeling and then have to deal with the consequences. Continue to be YOU!


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