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Practice The Pause  

sexyldy1000 65F  
10295 posts
1/20/2021 1:33 pm
Practice The Pause



Simple advice that can have a meaningful impact on thoughts, words and actions if you follow it.

Do you stop and pause or react and deal with the consequences?


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
1/20/2021 1:36 pm

I am able to do this more readily now than when I was younger. Perhaps it's maturity and having a different perspective now through life experiences.


RavenGB 61M  
1430 posts
1/20/2021 2:12 pm

Rather along the lines of "fools rush in, where angels fear to tread".


easyrider4008 65M
2563 posts
1/20/2021 2:18 pm

I do try to get my brain in gear before opening my mouth.


justaguyinalaska 56M
879 posts
1/20/2021 2:47 pm

Concur.

Things are rarely what they seem, in the moment, to be. A pause to process and reflect often improves both their appearance and your attitude.


scoupe42 59M  

1/20/2021 3:19 pm

Words of wisdom.


mc_justmc 62M  
6929 posts
1/20/2021 3:32 pm

I always pause and almost always realize it wasn't important.


bbuckwwheat 63M  
6265 posts
1/20/2021 3:44 pm

I try to pause and cool off before I say something. I have had to practice that this week and it seems to have helped in the situation that had me angry with someone I do not even know who was working for a neighbor. By cooling off and calling the neighbor, I think the issue will be resolved to the neighbor's and my mutual satisfaction.

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redrockrascal 63M  
23580 posts
1/20/2021 3:58 pm

Do you stop and pause or react and deal with the consequences?

As with many circumstances it depends on the situation.

When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.


doubledeezer 42M  
17 posts
1/20/2021 4:50 pm

This is some very good advice . I tend to react and have indeed faced many a consequence in past years.
I have had to teach myself to take the pause , I do agree it gets easier with age as we gain life experience . I slip once in a while but life is much calmer than past years


Paulxx001 65M  
22616 posts
1/20/2021 5:05 pm

Pause... moi?
I should and sometimes I do. Other moments have me slinging from the hip and dealing with the consequences. Life is too short for regrets and keeping things in.
Besides... it causes gas if ya force stuff in.

Nothing wrong with expressing a POV when there's one to make.


Tmptrzz 59F  
107038 posts
1/21/2021 7:32 am

Pausing now for me is a lot easier than it used to be in my younger years. We must always think before reacting as it's so important. Thanks for sharing this great reminder about Practicing Pausing my friend. I hope you enjoy a wonderful Thursday..

Seduce the mind and see what a wonderful adventure the body will take you on..


84kev89 38M
13 posts
1/21/2021 9:21 am

I try to now but when I was younger not so much


MrRareity 62M  
4589 posts
1/21/2021 10:02 am

It's a lot harder than it seems now it's like the saying patients is a virtue.

We have two lives, and the second begins when we realise we have only one - Confucious


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
1/21/2021 11:48 am

    Quoting RavenGB:
    Rather along the lines of "fools rush in, where angels fear to tread".
OK....I can understand how you made that analogy. Thanks for stopping by...hadn't seen you on my blog in a long time


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
1/21/2021 11:49 am

    Quoting easyrider4008:
    I do try to get my brain in gear before opening my mouth.
Sounds like a reasonable approach, especially if it works out for you.


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
1/21/2021 11:50 am

    Quoting justaguyinalaska:
    Concur.

    Things are rarely what they seem, in the moment, to be. A pause to process and reflect often improves both their appearance and your attitude.
I agree with your recap. Thanks for stopping by and sharing it.


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
1/21/2021 11:51 am

I thought so and that's why I decided to share them. Thanks for stopping by.


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
1/21/2021 11:52 am

    Quoting mc_justmc:
    I always pause and almost always realize it wasn't important.
Isn't it amazing how taking a few moments to do so can change one's perspective?


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
1/21/2021 11:53 am

    Quoting bbuckwwheat:
    I try to pause and cool off before I say something. I have had to practice that this week and it seems to have helped in the situation that had me angry with someone I do not even know who was working for a neighbor. By cooling off and calling the neighbor, I think the issue will be resolved to the neighbor's and my mutual satisfaction.
Thanks for stopping by and sharing your experience, When others read that it can be effective, they may think twice before reacting with taking time to pause first.


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
1/21/2021 11:55 am

    Quoting redrockrascal:
    Do you stop and pause or react and deal with the consequences?

    As with many circumstances it depends on the situation.
Well sure, if it's yelling out to someone to prevent them from getting run over. I have done that a few times at the traffic lights when someone has stepped out, head down looking at their phone with no regard to oncoming/turning traffic.


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
1/21/2021 11:56 am

    Quoting doubledeezer:
    This is some very good advice . I tend to react and have indeed faced many a consequence in past years.
    I have had to teach myself to take the pause , I do agree it gets easier with age as we gain life experience . I slip once in a while but life is much calmer than past years
Thank you for stopping by and sharing your perspective. Maturity and life experience can temper our reactions,


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
1/21/2021 11:59 am

    Quoting Paulxx001:
    Pause... moi?
    I should and sometimes I do. Other moments have me slinging from the hip and dealing with the consequences. Life is too short for regrets and keeping things in.
    Besides... it causes gas if ya force stuff in.

    Nothing wrong with expressing a POV when there's one to make.
This was not about NOT expressing a point of view. I would never suggest that. However, it is about not 'overreacting' with no regard to the impact it can have on others.


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
1/21/2021 12:00 pm

    Quoting Tmptrzz:
    Pausing now for me is a lot easier than it used to be in my younger years. We must always think before reacting as it's so important. Thanks for sharing this great reminder about Practicing Pausing my friend. I hope you enjoy a wonderful Thursday..
Maturity and life experience does impact how many people react in different situations. It changes our perspective and helps us weigh the importance of what we say and do.


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
1/21/2021 12:01 pm

    Quoting 84kev89:
    I try to now but when I was younger not so much
Thanks for stopping by and sharing your perspective.


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
1/21/2021 12:02 pm

    Quoting MrRareity:
    It's a lot harder than it seems now it's like the saying patients is a virtue.
I agree it's not easy, especially in challenging times. We have to be comfortable in whatever approach we use.


p1947q 75M  
140 posts
1/21/2021 3:46 pm

as several have noted, better than I used to be. I guess that might be one of the perks of getting older. I do still have a short fuse for telemarketers trying to sell me extended warranties though.


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
1/21/2021 4:44 pm

    Quoting p1947q:
    as several have noted, better than I used to be. I guess that might be one of the perks of getting older. I do still have a short fuse for telemarketers trying to sell me extended warranties though.
Those phone ☎️ calls are annoying. Here it’s ‘air duct cleaning services’ and bogus early morning calls about charges to my credit card.


pocogato12 70F  
37236 posts
1/22/2021 6:08 am

I refuse to let things push me to the point of "pause" any more. Not worth the effort. Most of the time I re-focus or re-word what I am "recording" and move forward. The rare time now that I let it fly I hope folks duck because I am blunt

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sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
1/22/2021 7:19 am

    Quoting pocogato12:
    I refuse to let things push me to the point of "pause" any more. Not worth the effort. Most of the time I re-focus or re-word what I am "recording" and move forward. The rare time now that I let it fly I hope folks duck because I am blunt
I don’t see the recommendation to not respond and express a point of view. Perhaps just to take a moment before saying or acting. Of course, some exceptions apply. Sometimes, being blunt is exactly what’s needed. Thanks for stopping by and commenting.


lonlyforlove2 79M  
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1/23/2021 11:44 am

Sounds very wise, more should adhere to this; have a good day, just be safe..

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sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
1/23/2021 3:04 pm

    Quoting lonlyforlove2:
    Sounds very wise, more should adhere to this; have a good day, just be safe..
Yes, no doubt there are many who good learn from practicing it. Safe is the only way to be. You too!


kamaruhl3 61M
4988 posts
1/25/2021 3:29 pm

wise words . i have gotten better at this as i got older too thank you


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
1/25/2021 5:06 pm

    Quoting kamaruhl3:
    wise words . i have gotten better at this as i got older too thank you
They seem to have struck a cord with many who stopped by to read them. Enjoy the rest of your day.


sweet0necter 48F  
2059 posts
2/2/2021 11:26 pm

This is great.. I actually think it came up on my face place... I think with age comes wisdom pause. I am used to be but still could be an over reactor due to my own insecurities. Now when people blow up I wonder what else are they struggling with often it has very little to do with me.


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
2/3/2021 11:58 am

    Quoting sweet0necter:
    This is great.. I actually think it came up on my face place... I think with age comes wisdom pause. I am used to be but still could be an over reactor due to my own insecurities. Now when people blow up I wonder what else are they struggling with often it has very little to do with me.
It probably has appeared elsewhere. I did see it somewhere else and felt it appropriate to share on here. Although it can be difficult, thinking about what is motivating the other person's behaviour, can impact how we choose to react. Thanks for stopping by.


UtopianDreams09 56M

2/5/2021 8:54 pm

love it


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
2/6/2021 1:50 am

Cool 😎. Does that mean you practice it too?


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