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AN INTERVIEW WITH AN ENIGMA  

spunkycumfun 62M/67F  
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2/17/2022 4:43 am
AN INTERVIEW WITH AN ENIGMA



Recently, I interviewed EnigmaInitiative, a long-standing and very popular member of blogland. Below are her great answers to the questions I asked in the interview. Men may want to cover their balls and check their arse while reading the interview!
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What three words would you use and what three words would your close friends use to describe your personality?
I would use unconventional, goofy, and introspective.
Let us go to the peanut gallery:
Nick, my roommate and partner, who has known me for nine years said: unique, unpredictable, and kind.
My female cousin who has known me my entire life said: kind, caring, and free spirited.
Logan, my poly lover who lives in Michigan and has known me fourteen years said: funny, unpredictable, and free spirited.
A female friend who has known me for eight years said: kind, passionate, and free spirited.
Ex-husband Number 3 who has known me for twenty-three years said: sarcastic, free spirited, and unpredictable.

What traits most turn you on and off people?
Personality traits are most likely to turn me on such as wit, intelligence, and being into compatible kinky shit plays high into my attraction to someone.
What turns me off most are closed minded people who think of the world in absolutes. Life is rarely as black and white as some people seem to believe it is, and nuance is lost on many.

Why did you join this site? And in particular why did you decide to blog?
I originally joined this site back when it first started and we were all using dial-up as a way to connect to the internet. I have had so many screen names over the years, I cannot even remember most of them.
After three marriages, I realized that I do not enjoy traditional relationships. I tend to keep people at a distance and can be incredibly independent and immensely introverted which can be difficult for the other person in a serious relationship. I prefer to keep intimate relationships closer to friends with benefits than living together/marriage.
I started blogging because I enjoy writing and connecting with people from a distance. I found the blogs one day when looking around the site. Originally, I stuck to chatrooms, the IM, and emailing people.

On your profile you describe your occupation as an artist. What type of art do you make?
Truth is, I am using artist as a vague descriptive term for what I do. That is, creating items to sell in order to support a non-profit created and run by me and Nick helping the homeless cat and human populations. I would prefer not to get into specifics in a public forum for a variety of reasons.

Your regular Friday Farm Day blog posts have quickly become popular postings in blogland. Would you describe yourself as an urban farmer? If not, are you a frustrated farmer?
I enjoy doing them. I would describe what I am doing as experimental gardening. I approach my garden kind of like I do my life; learn and try stuff and see what happens, as well as attempting to be more grounded in sustainability. I prefer buying seeds for things that you do not typically see in the grocery store that are heirloom in nature.
If I had more space, I could see myself turning into something more akin to a farmer, growing higher quantities of food to give away to those in need.

What is your favourite book, movie and song? And why are they your favourites?
I typically do not have individual favorites, and things change for me all the time based on my mood or any number of other things. My favorite genre to read has always been mystery/thrillers because I enjoy trying to figure out things. My favorite genre of movies, currently, is superhero movies (Marvel, DC) because I am a nerd who likes the idea that there are special people out there doing good in the world. And, my favorite era of music remains in the seventies because it speaks to my soul.

When a , what did you want to be when you grew up?
This is easy, I wanted to be a teacher.

When was the happiest time of your life, and why?
I would say that I am most content with my life now. After doing a lot of work on myself, work that continues to this day, deconstructing some of the toxic things I learned that reflected in my behavior throughout my life, I am happy with who I am and the direction I have chosen to continue to strive towards.
My happiest day, however, will forever be the day my was born for obvious reasons.

If you had to live your life in another time and place, when and where would you be?
I think I would love to be a madam of an English bordello back in the 18th century. The show Harlots on Hulu has probably affected me and glamorized it far too much. LOL.

How many times so far have you fallen in love?
This is a difficult question for me, as I am not sure I have ever been in love. I have a great deal of empathy and love for lots of people with whom I was in a romantic relationship. In fact, I still love them all in my own way. But, in love is a concept I struggle with due to some philosophical and psychological reasons that could take pages to explain.

Have you met up with any people from this site? And if so, have you had sex with anyone from this site?
Tons, actually. From casual relationships to serious ones, I have met all kinds of people from here in real life and had sex with them.
There used to be a meet-up from the chatroom I frequented on this site in Michigan, not too far from where I lived. I would go to those once in a while back in the mid-2000s.
Logan, who I have been in a relationship with since 2008, I met on this site.
Eight or nine years ago, under a different profile when I first started blogging, I wrote erotic stories about the sex I had with a couple of the people I met here.
And, I have met others in recent years, even some under this profile name.
I have also met people from here and became friends. Speaking of, TicklePlease (a blogger here) and I met some years back. I went to visit her, and we had a blast together with her showing me the sites in her area.
Like superbj, I would call myself an BBWMatchMate success story.

If you had to advise someone on how best to seduce you, what advice would you give?
Make an effort to get to know me, actions speak louder than words, seduce my mind by being able to talk about sex and kink freely and intelligently, and enjoy compatible kinks.

In one of your blog posts, you said that you used to be a camgirl. How did you get to be a camgirl? And was it a rewarding job?
Funny story, before this site had points and all that bullshit, I used to get on cam here and do stripteases onto masturbation accompanied by music. I was pretty popular, often getting hundreds in a stream at once. There was another blogger here (cannot remember her name) who wrote about how she was camming and getting paid to do it on another site. I thought, why not get paid for something I am doing for free?
It was rewarding for a time, but after a while it became a chore due to all the entitled dudebros and trolls. So, I just stopped doing it.

What is the most number of people you have had sex with in one day?
When I first moved here to Orlando in 2013, I went to a swingers club a few times. I would say my top number was above ten, but it is not like I was counting. Once it got out that I was a squirter, there was not a lot of downtime for me. They kept asking, and I kept saying yes.

Have you engaged in group sex, that is, sex with more than two people involved? If so, what type or types of group sex have you been involved in?
But, of course. I have done MMFF, MMF and FFM in a bunch of configurations, and a group of two women and four men.

What has been your kinkiest sexual act?
I suppose the kinkiest thing I have done was to tie up a guys dick and balls, place ball weights on, tie his hands and feet to a cross, stick a butt plug up his ass, and tease him mercilessly.
The kinkiest thing I have had done to me was to have Shibari rope work done on me completely naked while wearing chopsticks fashioned into nipple clamps and being masturbated in public (at a dungeon).

What has been your most embarrassing sexual moment?
There is something that can happen sometimes with anal sex, I am sure you and all your readers know to what I am referring.

Are there any sexual acts that you have not done that you would like to do?
Acts in and of themselves? No, I have done every sexual act I ever wanted to try.
Complicated role play scenarios that would require more than one compatible trusted partner, planning, and script outlines? Better believe I have a few.

What is your perfect three-course meal? And what drink would you have with the meal?
Caesar salad.
Steak, med rare, seasoned with only salt and fresh cracked black pepper. Baked potato with butter, chives, corn, and fresh cracked black pepper on it.
Layered chocolate cake with ermine frosting and homemade vanilla bean ice cream made from custard.
It is a groaner, but Diet Coke is my preferred drink.

If you could invite three people, dead or alive, to join you at a dinner party, who would you invite?
This may sound strange and sad, but given my life circumstances I would want it to be my parents and siblings. It is impossible for me to choose between the siblings, so it has to be four. I cannot competently put into words what I would give to be able to talk with all of them again. It has been over forty years since my mother died, and over thirty since my father. I still desperately miss my family as it was before my mother took her life.
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Do you have any questions for EnigmaInitiative?
If you would like to read more interviews of bloggers, can you suggest bloggers I should interview?


EnigmaInitiative is happy to stay behind and answer any questions you may have for her. So please post your questions as a comment within.



spunkycumfun 62M/67F  
41171 posts
2/17/2022 4:44 am

This is the fifth interview with a blogger I have done. The four other interviews were with:
kinkyfem73 - see PIMPING KINKY, posted on 21 September 2016
staci_19702 - see [post 4431766], posted on 27 December 2021
smartasswoman - see [post 4434169], posted on 10 January 2022
[blog superbjversion2] - see [post 4437644], posted on 1 February 2022


EnigmaInitiative 54F  
6054 posts
2/17/2022 5:08 am

Thank you Spunky for being so kind to ask me.

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EnigmaInitiative 54F  
6054 posts
2/17/2022 5:12 am

Oh, and I nominate Pony

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author51 59F  
130010 posts
2/17/2022 5:33 am

Enig. is one female blogger I am proud to call my friend and I adore her immensely. Such a wonderful choice to do an interview with...XOXO


EnigmaInitiative 54F  
6054 posts
2/17/2022 5:58 am

    Quoting author51:
    Enig. is one female blogger I am proud to call my friend and I adore her immensely. Such a wonderful choice to do an interview with...XOXO
Thanks Joy

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pal334 67M  
45821 posts
2/17/2022 6:20 am

Wow, a wonderful interview. Thank you both for sharing. There is so much in our backgrounds. Thank you for sharing

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CleavageFan4U 65M  
69374 posts
2/17/2022 6:34 am

Great job Spunky!

My questions for Enig:
1 - Given you, like me, are a long term blogger, have you ever attended one of the blogger Meet and Greets that were such a big deal 10-15 years ago?
2 - Since you live in one of the entertainment capitals of the county, how you ever considered organizing a blogger M+G?

And I agree with Enig, my "neighbor" Pony would make a great next interviewee.

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Tmptrzz 59F  
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2/17/2022 8:51 am

Another great interview my friend, I hope you enjoy a thrilling exciting Thursday..

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citizen4722 64M  
74582 posts
2/17/2022 12:19 pm

Another top-notch interview.
One question I'd like to as to Enigma is: Have you ever had a major catastrophe with any of the cats?


EnigmaInitiative 54F  
6054 posts
2/17/2022 3:10 pm

    Quoting pal334:
    Wow, a wonderful interview. Thank you both for sharing. There is so much in our backgrounds. Thank you for sharing
Thanks Pal

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EnigmaInitiative 54F  
6054 posts
2/17/2022 3:14 pm

I wasn't blogging when they had the meet and greets for bloggers. I started blogging in 2013 and suspect if there was one that year, I didn't know about it because I was so new.

I have thought of doing something along those lines, seriously. The issue has always come down to would there be enough interest to make it happen. I suspect the pandemic would cause many to pause.

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EnigmaInitiative 54F  
6054 posts
2/17/2022 3:16 pm

    Quoting citizen4722:
    Another top-notch interview.
    One question I'd like to as to Enigma is: Have you ever had a major catastrophe with any of the cats?
It's only been a couple of months since one of my cats was hit by a car; and two mysteriously died recently. But, other than the typical knocking crap down and minor flare up of tempers, it's not too bad.

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PonyGirl1965 56F  
22090 posts
2/17/2022 10:34 pm

Incredible interview! I want to sit and listen to Enigma's stories all night. I am so intrigued.


EnigmaInitiative 54F  
6054 posts
2/18/2022 6:02 am

    Quoting PonyGirl1965:
    Incredible interview! I want to sit and listen to Enigma's stories all night. I am so intrigued.
Thanks Pony.

My sex stories? Oh lort woman, where would I start?

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spunkycumfun 62M/67F  
41171 posts
2/18/2022 12:03 pm

I think the interview went down well; all thanks to you.


spunkycumfun 62M/67F  
41171 posts
2/18/2022 12:04 pm

Pony is definitely on my radar!


spunkycumfun 62M/67F  
41171 posts
2/18/2022 12:05 pm

    Quoting author51:
    Enig. is one female blogger I am proud to call my friend and I adore her immensely. Such a wonderful choice to do an interview with...XOXO
Enigma is a wonderful human being.


spunkycumfun 62M/67F  
41171 posts
2/18/2022 12:06 pm

    Quoting pal334:
    Wow, a wonderful interview. Thank you both for sharing. There is so much in our backgrounds. Thank you for sharing
It was a wow interview. I'm pleased you enjoyed reading it.


spunkycumfun 62M/67F  
41171 posts
2/18/2022 12:07 pm

I'm pleased you liked the interview.
Pony is in my sights but so are you! Are you up to be interviewed?


spunkycumfun 62M/67F  
41171 posts
2/18/2022 12:08 pm

    Quoting Tmptrzz:
    Another great interview my friend, I hope you enjoy a thrilling exciting Thursday..
I'm pleased you liked the interview. I'm now searching for my next victim, sorry I meant interviewee!


spunkycumfun 62M/67F  
41171 posts
2/18/2022 12:09 pm

    Quoting citizen4722:
    Another top-notch interview.
    One question I'd like to as to Enigma is: Have you ever had a major catastrophe with any of the cats?
Enigma was a fantastic interviewee.


spunkycumfun 62M/67F  
41171 posts
2/18/2022 12:10 pm

    Quoting PonyGirl1965:
    Incredible interview! I want to sit and listen to Enigma's stories all night. I am so intrigued.
I would have loved to have asked 50 not 20 questions to Enigma but that would have entailed writing a book!
You have been suggested for my next interview. Would you be happy to be interviewed?


spunkycumfun 62M/67F  
41171 posts
2/18/2022 2:02 pm

I hope you don't mind but I have one more question, a bit like Columbo's just one more thing. I was surprised at your answer of the last question about you wanting all your family to attend. I'm askling this, because I'm estranged from my family. What would you say to your family at this dinner party?


EnigmaInitiative 54F  
6054 posts
2/18/2022 4:17 pm

    Quoting spunkycumfun:
    I hope you don't mind but I have one more question, a bit like Columbo's just one more thing. I was surprised at your answer of the last question about you wanting all your family to attend. I'm askling this, because I'm estranged from my family. What would you say to your family at this dinner party?
My mother, I want to know why. Why she killed herself.

My father, I want to know if he's proud of me

My siblings...truth is, I want to tell on them. No, really, I do. I want my parents to tell them to wake up and get vaxxed and stop believing bullshit.

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EnigmaInitiative 54F  
6054 posts
2/18/2022 4:20 pm

    Quoting spunkycumfun:
    I would have loved to have asked 50 not 20 questions to Enigma but that would have entailed writing a book!
    You have been suggested for my next interview. Would you be happy to be interviewed?
PS, you have my email, if you want to know stuff, just ask. We're friends, I'll answer.

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spunkycumfun 62M/67F  
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2/19/2022 2:42 am

    Quoting EnigmaInitiative:
    My mother, I want to know why. Why she killed herself.

    My father, I want to know if he's proud of me

    My siblings...truth is, I want to tell on them. No, really, I do. I want my parents to tell them to wake up and get vaxxed and stop believing bullshit.
It's tragic about your mother. I can't pretend to understand what you went through or are going through.
I'm estranged from my family - it's a small family - but I know there'll be a time, probably a funeral, what I'd say to them, particularly my brother. I'd like to think I'd be polite but I'm not so sure.


CleavageFan4U 65M  
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2/19/2022 7:12 am

    Quoting spunkycumfun:
    I'm pleased you liked the interview.
    Pony is in my sights but so are you! Are you up to be interviewed?
Oh sure, why not. New ground, right? I would be the first male blogger to be interviewed best I can recall.

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EnigmaInitiative 54F  
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2/19/2022 2:18 pm

It's tragic about your mother. I can't pretend to understand what you went through or are going through.
I'm estranged from my family - it's a small family - but I know there'll be a time, probably a funeral, what I'd say to them, particularly my brother. I'd like to think I'd be polite but I'm not so sure.

Let's just say that my whole life changed in an instant, and I've never fully recovered. I don't see how anyone could recover from losing their mother that way at such a pivotal time in their life.

My sibling relationships are complicated by the death of our parents so young. We have not had healthy relationships with each other since my mother died. Me being pansexual and poly doesn't help things, and neither does their qanon bs.

I suspect me wanting all of them at the table is mostly about wishful thinking of days gone by.

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spunkycumfun 62M/67F  
41171 posts
2/20/2022 2:05 am

    Quoting EnigmaInitiative:
    PS, you have my email, if you want to know stuff, just ask. We're friends, I'll answer.
I may end up being your authorised biographer, though unauthorised biographies are often more juicy!
PS I posted this before but without linking it to your comment. Now corrected. I'm an anorak!


spunkycumfun 62M/67F  
41171 posts
2/20/2022 2:07 am

That's great. I'll send a mail to set things up.
You'll be the second man, after staci, to be interviewed.


spunkycumfun 62M/67F  
41171 posts
2/20/2022 2:10 am

    Quoting EnigmaInitiative:
    It's tragic about your mother. I can't pretend to understand what you went through or are going through.
    I'm estranged from my family - it's a small family - but I know there'll be a time, probably a funeral, what I'd say to them, particularly my brother. I'd like to think I'd be polite but I'm not so sure.

    Let's just say that my whole life changed in an instant, and I've never fully recovered. I don't see how anyone could recover from losing their mother that way at such a pivotal time in their life.

    My sibling relationships are complicated by the death of our parents so young. We have not had healthy relationships with each other since my mother died. Me being pansexual and poly doesn't help things, and neither does their qanon bs.

    I suspect me wanting all of them at the table is mostly about wishful thinking of days gone by.
There's nothing wrong with wishful thinking; it shows a good heart.
My parents died soon after each other; that was the trigger of my fallout with my brother. I've been told it's quite common for siblings to argue once their parents die.


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