We’re a fun, stable, clean, and professional heterosexual couple that recently added a new level of excitement in our bedroom routine. We’re looking for someone (male, possibly under the absolute right conditions a couple) to share in our new adventure. It’s extremely important that you share the same stable, hard-drug free lifestyle. This is relatively new to us, so we’d need to take it slow and have a few in depth conversations and a meet and greet prior to anything happening to make sure we’re all comfortable and on the same page. It is an absolute must that you are clean (STD/STI free) and able to provide documentation that attests to this, as will we. The following may seem a bit dry, but it is important to us that everyone is completely open and upfront about their comfort level, expectations and overall parameters. Through months of dialogue, research, and common sense we’ve come up with this narrative to ensure everyone is on the same page. Ambiguity is not a good thing in scenarios like this. From the boyfriend: I’m super excited at the prospect of someone else engaging in sexual activity with my partner. I have somewhat specific requirements for this scenario. The goal is not to develop a romantic relationship. That is completely off the table and we’d terminate any arrangement with someone who appears to be heading in that direction. The situations we've had are your typical threesome and it seems to work out well. From the girlfriend: I don’t like rushing into things and it could take awhile before reaching the scenario my partner discussed above. I don’t want potential guys to be discouraged, but I need a respectful and understanding approach. I’m fun and open minded. However, there needs to be a clear expectation that my comfort level is paramount. If I don’t like something it needs to stop immediately, no questions asked. Consent plays a large role in this and an open and honest dialogue is critical to making it work. Our primary goal is to have fun. For that to happen, everyone needs to feel safe. Sticking to these guidelines will help to ensure that both of those things happen. As my partner stated we are in no way interested in or seeking a romantic relationship or a poly situation. Lastly, I am on birth control (IUD). General common sense rules Provide recent physician attestation that you have no STDs or STIs. We will provide this as well. Do not rush the situation. Communicate comfort levels with activities. Don’t do anything you’re not comfortable with, and don’t do anything anyone else isn’t comfortable with. No means no. If someone has to say it twice there’s a serious problem. Shower beforehand (should be obvious!). No romantic relationships. No hard drugs. The boyfriend doesn’t drink but feel free to have one or two. Keep it sensible. We’re not unreaable people. Honest mistakes can happen, but purposely breaking a rule will result in termination of the situation and you’ll be asked to leave. If at any time someone wants to stop or needs to slow down, that will be respected. No one is “owed” anything no matter how far things have progressed.